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- Bates, D. D. (2012). Self-soulstice model of affirmation. International Journal of Existential Psychology and Psychotherapy, 4(1), 79-88.
- Bates, D. D. (2012). Beyond expectations: The experiences of two African-American bisexual women. Journal of Bisexuality, 12(3), 404-416.
- Bates, D.D. (Spring, 2011). Let's not get it twisted: Bullying is the result, not the problem. Annals of Psychotherapy and Integrative Health, 80-81.
- Bates, D. D. (2010, Fall). Visibility! Authenticity! Affirmation! Urban Socialite, 36-37.
- Bates, D. D. (2010). Once married African-American lesbians and bisexual women: Identity development and the coming-out process. Journal of Homosexuality, 57 (2), 197-225.
- Bates, D. D. (2009, September 3). WNBA confused on sex, gender. Southern Voice, p. 15.
- Bates, D. D. (2008, August 29). Thank you, Oprah. Southern Voice, p. 16.
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To affirm self means that you accept yourself and the totality of the uniquenesses that are you. Sometimes external messages about who we ought to be (or not be) causes chaos with who we are innately. This not only muddles our ability to affirm our intrinsic self (or our true sense of self), but can lead to emotional distress, for not “showing up” as we truly are can negatively impact how we see ourselves and others, our perception of how others see us, and inevitably our relationships with others.
SIX STEPS TO AN EMERGING AUTHENTIC, AFFIRMED SELF
- Resurrect Old Dreams
- Nurture Yourself
- Pat Yourself on the Back
- Develop a Support System
- Start from the Outside to get to the Inside
- If Necessary, Seek Counseling
